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[Motivational Speaker] Birthday reflections on happiness, inner peace, and relationships :)

Hope you’re having a great week so far.

I have three stories for you today. Our TuesDate today is relatively longer than usual. I hope you enjoy the stories.

Let’s dive right into our Story, Highlight, and call to Action for the week 🙂

STORY

Story #1: True Happiness

I used to think that I’d be at my happiest when I finally met my ‘The One’ and when I got married.

I just turned 20 for the second time a few days ago (Thanks to my friend Kitch for this creative way of describing my age) and I’m still single.

Yet, I could say this is the happiest I have ever been. 💕

I am so grateful for where I am.

I am so grateful for what I have and for what I don’t have yet.

Last year, I made a tradition to celebrate my birthday the entire month of October but on the day of my birthday, it will just be me and God.

I did this because I wanted to be quiet and reflect on two things:

  1. Am I fully satisfied with God?
  2. Is there any sadness or emptiness lingering somewhere in my heart that I couldn’t hear because of laughter and celebrations on my birthday?

I was liberated by what I found out. I felt deep love, joy, and peace that no words can describe.

The deep love, joy, and peace I feel allow me to make sound decisions like really choosing the right man I would marry and not jumping to the next guy who showed interest. When God finally tells me, “Okay, Sha, it’s time to get married!” I know my husband and I will create a loving, joyful, and fruitful marriage that gives glory to God and blesses a lot of people.

Story #2: On friendships and relationships

God has blessed me with the sweetest family and friends. Last Sunday, I had a simple dinner birthday celebration with my friends. That was the first time I organized my own birthday party because, in the past, my friends organized surprise birthday dinners for me.

While writing down the names of my guests, I realized I have so many friends in Manila alone. Plus, friends spread all over the Philippines and the world. I also come from a huge clan from both sides and I probably have over a hundred cousins, nieces, nephews, grandnieces, and grandnephews in our clan. (My husband-to-be and I better save up for our wedding because I want to invite everyone dear to us on our wedding day! Hahaha!)

I wish I could invite everyone but I couldn’t find a bigger venue and I also wanted it to be intimate enough so my friends and their kids could get to know each other.

If you’re my friend and you’re thinking, “Why didn’t Sha invite me?” Know that most likely I thought of inviting you.

My friends, my treasures. I missed some who couldn’t make it that day.

Wherever I go, I continue making friends. This is what’s beautiful about friendships. You can have as many friends as you want! I feel like I haven’t even tapped my heart’s full capacity to love. There’s still so much love in my heart I’m willing to share!!

In my recent 3-day birthday getaway trip to Boracay, I met new friends.

Let me introduce you to Angelo and his friends.

While vlogging by the beach on my Day 1 in Boracay, he saw me and said,

“Ma’am. I’ll take your photos. I’m good at taking photos.”

Two tourists who passed by smiled and said, “Yes, he’s good.”

I smiled at Angelo, gave him my iPhone, and he directed me to what poses to do. Hehe. Indeed, he was great.

We chatted a bit and his friends joined us. That’s how we became friends.

The next day, they came by the beach in front of my hotel and we chatted. While talking about some places they wanted me to visit, I showed them one of my music videos shot in those places they referred to. They loved my music videos and they wanted to watch more! (I have a hunch my music videos are box-office hits among kids and kids-at-heart! My Godchildren also loved my music videos! My 2-year-old God-daughter Tey memorized almost all of my song covers!)

I learned that Angelo’s birthday was Oct 17, and mine was Oct 19.

“Do you want to celebrate?” I asked.

Their eyes glowed.

Here’s what we did on my birthday:

✅ Breakfast at the hotel

✅ We bought a birthday cake

✅ Early dinner at Jollibee

✅ Photobooth

✅ Heart-to-heart conversations

with Angelo, Arvie Jay, Ivan, Yamyam, John Rian, and Nanay Rita 🙂

During the candle cake blowing, I asked everyone to close their eyes and make a wish, and then we all blew the candles. Their wishes for themselves made me a bit emotional. They wanted their respective families to be together again this Christmas. They are apart because of economic challenges.

And their wish for me, “Sana makahanap ka po ng mabuting mapapangasawa at makapag-asawa ka na po.” (We pray you get married to a good man soon!) Awww… 🥰

I told them when I get married, I’ll go back to Boracay and introduce my husband to them.

The kids were very responsible and sweet. Since they’re always the ones behind the camera taking photos of guests, I brought them to a photo booth and gave each of them a printed copy of our photos.

I also made friends with a lot of locals and fellow tourists.

Story #3: Kind people are everywhere

After Mass on Day 2 in Boracay, I wanted to go to the mall but I didn’t have loose cash for my e-trike fare.

I have a 500-peso bill in my wallet but I didn’t want to inconvenience the e-trike driver.

I decided to just walk. I just needed to know which direction I’d go to and whether the mall was walkable.

I chanced upon 3 strangers and asked if the mall was walkable.

They said, “Mag-e trike ka nalang, Ma’am. 15 pesos lang pamasahe.” (Just take the E-trike. Fare is only 15 pesos)

I said, “Okay lang kuya. Maglakad nalang po ako kasi wala po akong barya.”

(I’ll walk since I don’t have loose change for my e-trike fare).

One of them was holding a 20-peso bill, the only bill he was holding, and he handed it to me.“Ma’am, kunin mo na to. Pamasahe mo.” (Take this for your fare.)

with Danivee, Dagul, and Darwin

I shared their act of kindness on my Facebook and it went viral. So many people were touched by the goodness of Danivee, Darwin, and Dagul.

Here are some of the comments.

HIGHLIGHT (Lesson)

“Making and keeping friends is simple. It’s all about being interested in them, listening to their stories, and wanting what’s best for them.”

Call to ACTION

We may think that happiness is found in circumstances…

“I’d be happy when I get married.

I’d be happy when I get promoted.

I’d be happy when I buy a house or a car.

I’d be happy when I travel.

I’d be happy when my spouse treats me right.

I’d be happy when my friends see my worth.”

The truth is, that happiness is an inside job.

We have everything we need within us to be happy.

May you find that inner peace, joy, and love that only God can give.

May you see in yourself the inner peace, joy, love, and zest in life that you already have.

That’s my birthday wish for you.

I wish you fearless possibilities!

Sha Nacino

Keynote Speaker l Author l Adjunct Faculty, Asian Institute of Management

P.S.1 How can I help you motivate your team? Message me on LinkedIn or simply reply to this email. https://www.linkedin.com/in/sha-nacino/

Sha Nacino is a motivational speaker, TEDx speaker, author, and adjunct faculty at the Asian Institute of Management. For speaking invitations, visit shanacino.com or email us at info@shanacino.com

Sha Nacino

Sha Nacino is a motivational speaker, author of 15 books, and adjunct faculty at the Asian Institute of Management. She is on a mission to inspire fearless possibilities by helping leaders and companies build a culture where everyone feels safe, seen, and appreciated.

Sha finished her B.S. in Business Economics from the University of the Philippines - Diliman and holds a Certificate in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania.

She was awarded the Female Entrepreneur of the Year 2019 by the United Nations Global Entrepreneur Council and Inspiring Humanitarian Award by the World Humanitarian Drive.

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