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[Motivational Speaker] On spontaneity, delayed gratification, and self compassion

Hope you’re having a great week so far.

I have two stories for you today.

Let’s dive right into our Story, Highlight, and call to Action for the week 🙂

STORY

Story #1: Conquering the Waves in La Union (Philippines)

A couple of days ago, I messaged my friends and said,

“I want to go to the beach this weekend, even for just a day. Let’s go?”

My friend replied, “Our family is planning to go to La Union this weekend to celebrate my sister-in-law’s birthday. Let’s go!”

That’s how my friends and I ended up on a day trip to La Union. I love spontaneity, and I am so grateful for friends who share the same craziness.

La Union is known as a surfing place. So we decided to take surfing lessons as well.

While the surfing coaches were briefing us, I became anxious and wanted to back out.

But I talked to myself and said, “You got this, Sha! You’re brave! You did scuba diving in Boracay. That was way scarier because you’re underwater, and you did it!

Once we were on the beach, I hopped on my surfing board. Every time the waves crashed at us, I got so scared and would shout out so loud,

“Waaaaahhhhhhhhh! Waaaaahhhhhh!!!! Waaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”

I may have looked foolish because I was the only one screaming so many times out of fear, and I accepted that part of me.

I felt sorry to those who were distracted by my noise. Hahaha! However, when I looked at the reactions of the people there, they seemed amused rather than irritated. They laughed every time I shouted. I couldn’t blame them. After all, the water was just waist-deep. Hehe! Good thing I would always come back to my senses each time I realized how shallow the water was and I would laugh with them also.

Even if I knew in my mind it was safe to attempt to stand up on my surfing board and fall, my body didn’t embrace it yet so I had to be gentle with myself.

In a span of one hour, I attempted to stand up only twice and fell both times. That was a milestone for me.

I told myself, “I’m proud of you, Sha, for doing it even when you’re scared. Let’s treat this as a warm-up. Let’s go back next time and attempt to stand up more than twice.”

I told my surfing coach Jeremy we’d just take it slow and enjoy the waves.

Story #2: Delayed gratification works: Boracay episode

When I was still a bank employee, we had vacation leaves. I remember how my officemates would share stories about their travels. I was happy listening to their stories and I wish I could go on vacations also as often as I wanted to.

But back then, I only had 20 vacation leaves per year. I said ‘no’ to travels in the meantime so I could invest my savings and vacation leaves in attending seminars on personal development and money management. Plus, going home to the province to spend time with my family. I am grateful my efforts paid off.

While I was in La Union with my friends last Sunday, I suddenly missed Boracay. I checked my schedule this coming week and I saw that I didn’t have any in-person meetings or engagements on certain days. So I booked my flights to and from Boracay. Two days later, I’m here, enjoying the beautiful beach and the white sands.


This is my no make-up, no lipstick, no filter, straight-from-the-airport look. I now love embracing my natural beauty. Naks! Thank God!

Years ago, it would take me months to plan and save up for a vacation. Now, I can go to Boracay the next day if I want to. I also have the flexibility to work from anywhere or to decide to not work on a given week.

One thing that really helped me was this, “Di ako nakipagsabayan sa travels ng iba lalo nung di ko pa kaya.”

If you’re pressured to measure up to the lifestyle of the people around you or the people you see on social media, be kind to yourself and tell yourself that you don’t have to keep up with their lifestyle.

Focus on your own purpose, progress, and timeline. Design the lifestyle you want and make it happen, with lots of hard work, patience, and by the grace of God. And yes, invest in personal development and money management.

HIGHLIGHT (Lesson)

“Be kind to yourself and focus on your own purpose, progress, and timeline.”

Call to ACTION

Are you pressured about the things you see around you?

Maybe your colleagues are getting promoted and you feel stuck.
Maybe your friends are getting engaged and getting married and you’re still single.

Maybe you see how advanced the other kids are compared to your kid.

Maybe you feel left out financially and socially.

Maybe your fellow sales professionals are hitting their targets and getting awards, and you can’t seem to progress.

I feel you. I also felt some of what I shared above. Sometimes, I got impatient, too, because I wanted to be in my desired future instead of embracing my current reality.

Be kind to yourself, be patient, and focus on your purpose. Remember, you are exactly where you need to be to learn the lessons you need to learn so you can fully enjoy the things you’ve dreamed of.

Everything is a preparation. Everything is an opportunity to grow. You got this!

I wish you fearless possibilities!

Sha Nacino

Keynote Speaker l Author l Adjunct Faculty, Asian Institute of Management

P.S.1 How can I help you motivate your team? Message me on LinkedIn or simply reply to this email. https://www.linkedin.com/in/sha-nacino/

Sha Nacino is a motivational speaker, TEDx speaker, author, and adjunct faculty at the Asian Institute of Management. For speaking invitations, visit shanacino.com or email us at info@shanacino.com

Sha Nacino

Sha Nacino is a motivational speaker, author of 15 books, and adjunct faculty at the Asian Institute of Management. She is on a mission to inspire fearless possibilities by helping leaders and companies build a culture where everyone feels safe, seen, and appreciated.

Sha finished her B.S. in Business Economics from the University of the Philippines - Diliman and holds a Certificate in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania.

She was awarded the Female Entrepreneur of the Year 2019 by the United Nations Global Entrepreneur Council and Inspiring Humanitarian Award by the World Humanitarian Drive.

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