Inspiring you to be more grateful each day

Happy Tuesday πŸ™‚

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How are you?

Hope you had a beautiful weekend.

Last Saturday, I did a Masterclass for the members of Thrive University, my online membership club.

Our topic was “How to Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life.”

This was based on Jack Canfield’s Success Principles, wherein I’m a certified trainer.

One of the things we talked about is a formula on how to stop blaming or complaining.

Whenever we find ourselves blaming another person or blaming a situation, we’re giving away our power.

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The formula is E + R = O.

Event + Response = Outcome

When we blame or complain about the EVENT, we’re losing our power.

The secret is to focus on our point of power, which is our RESPONSE.

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Let me give you a quick story related to E + R = O.

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In August 2014, I traveled to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia to attend an international convention.

When I arrived at the airport, I realized I forgot my passport! Gosh!

Good thing I was at the airport 3 hours before my flight.

I called up my brother who was home and he was kind enough to bring my passport to the airport.

At the airport, my friends and I were taking our sweet time chatting and having lunch.

Alas! We didn’t notice the time and we missed our flight via Cebu Pacific!

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Applying E + R = O, there were two ways to look at the situation.

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Option 1: Blame or complain by focusing on the EVENT. Blame myself and my friends.

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E.g. Sha, you should have been mindful of the time. What a waste of time and money to miss your original flight and book another flight 6 hours later than the original flight. What?! How could you forget your passport? How can you be so careless?! Why were you and your friends so talkative that you didn’t mind the time and you ended up missing our flight?! That’s so irresponsible of you.

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Option 2: RESPOND by looking at what’s good in the situation and what I can do moving forward.

E.g. “It’s okay, Sha! Find humor in it. Laugh about it. Take the lessons. Look at it as an opportunity to grow in self compassion and patience. Look at it as an opportunity to manage your emotions and build your character.”

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I’m glad I chose the latter.

For some reason, our airport misadventures didn’t irritate me.
I saw it as a beautiful opportunity to test my character and grow me as a person.

I found humor in it and I laughed a lot!

For some weird reason, I felt like a winner.
That experience was one for the books.

(For the record, I can’t remember missing another flight since then. Unless I forgot any other flight I might have missed! Hahaha!)

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I shared this story on Facebook days after the convention.

​Coen, a Singaporean I met at the convention who became a good friend, read my post and commented:

My friend didn’t blame me or the EVENT either.

He didn’t say,

“Gosh, Sha! How could you have forgotten your passport? How could you not notice the time and how could you end up missing your flight?!”

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I love how my friend RESPONDED. He prophesied the kind of future he saw for me.

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He prophesied that I’ll be flying Singapore Airlines, I will be speaking at the convention, not attending talks, and I’ll have a personal assistant who will remind me of my passport.

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Guess what?! His words came true 5 years later.

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In August 2019, I flew to the Maldives with a connecting flight to Singapore via Singapore Airlines. My clients booked my flights and they also booked me in a 5-star resort. I went to the Maldives not to attend a convention but to speak at the convention. I gave the Closing Keynote in a huge HR Convention there.

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As a big bonus, I have a team who works with me and who takes care of some of the details so I can focus on the big picture.

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The 30-Day No Blaming/Complaining Challenge

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Here’s a little challenge. How about we observe the 30-day no blaming/complaining challenge? Hehe!

Anytime you catch yourself complaining or blaming because your boss scolded you or you didn’t feel appreciated or you were bashed, ask yourself,

“Am I focusing on the EVENT?”

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Remember, the event already happened. You cannot change the event because it’s already in the past.

Instead, shift your focus. Focus on your RESPONSE.

Given that this event happened, how can I respond to this? What can I do?

That’s how you gain back y our power.

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That’s the power of E + R = O!

That’s the power of surrounding yourself with friends who inspire you!

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I am so grateful for the kind of friends I have.

Jim Rohn once said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend your time with.

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Who are the people you spend time with?
Do they inspire you?
Do they speak words of encouragement to you?
Do they see your potential?
Do they lift you up?
Do you do the same for them?

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Choose your inner circle well! πŸ™‚

If you want to be part of my inner circle at Thrive University, visit https://thriveuniversity.club/​

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I wish you love, joy, and peace today and everyday! πŸ™‚

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Cheers,
Sha

P.S. Let’s stay connected through music. You can now stream my latest song cover “I See the Light” on Spotify and on all the major music streaming platforms like Apple Music, iTunes, etc.

You can play it while you’re doing your exercise or while you’re doing the dishes. You can play it while you’re watching the sunrise or the sunset. Or whenever you want to. πŸ™‚

​Here’s the link on Spotify

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I feel so kilig (giddy with excitement) listening to my songs on Spotify! Hehe!

Hope you enjoy as well! πŸ™‚

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​Here’s the link on Spotify again

Or you can simply search of ‘Sha Nacino’ and see my 3 song covers there. πŸ™‚

Sha Nacino is a motivational speaker, TEDx speaker, author, and adjunct faculty at the Asian Institute of Management. For speaking invitations, visit shanacino.com or email us at info@shanacino.com

Sha Nacino

Sha Nacino is a motivational speaker, author of 15 books, and adjunct faculty at the Asian Institute of Management. She is on a mission to inspire fearless possibilities by helping leaders and companies build a culture where everyone feels safe, seen, and appreciated.

Sha finished her B.S. in Business Economics from the University of the Philippines - Diliman and holds a Certificate in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania.

She was awarded the Female Entrepreneur of the Year 2019 by the United Nations Global Entrepreneur Council and Inspiring Humanitarian Award by the World Humanitarian Drive.

Here are three ways Sha can be of service to you:
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